Isn’t people pleasing highly overrated?

I understand, every person has their gifts to offer in this world but what kind of gift is people pleasing just to grab hold of their treasures. What kind of give and take is this? Isn’t this offering very very sneaky because there is no sweetness genuinely for the other person but shadiness in the intent. Living “people centric” lives where they can sweet talk other into a risky gamble. Is this how the gift of gab is used…if that’s the only offering a person is capable of, it can be used somewhere much more valuable than dreaming of success and waiting till death/chaos to seize the material things belonging of the other person. This is what most people assume “working for success” is!! Success with no impact!! Is promoting “life of slavery” what a successful life looks because that’s what we encounter,people earn lots of money to show it off and create slaves under him and the other half is just encouraging more slavery just so they don’t have to work and “live off buttering people”. Isn’t the people pleasing society nothing but a way to live off others and forever be slaves to the one whom they are benefiting from. How shallow is the definition of “quality life”..This “imbalanced shady trade” taking place between people is a clear example of people so desperately want to “impress others” and are so scared to live a life they want but are living an idea of quality life instilled in their brains by other people who lead a life of anxiety turmoil humiliation. This is what is “herd mentality” which is giving rise to nothing but drama conflicts tragedies. How about a culture where people are not being pleasant just because they can “sweet talk into the treasures” but genuinely they like to spend “nice quality time”. It will happen when people instead of “fitting in”, they are “empowered enough” to be “outstanding”, “gaining expertise” in their “unique skills” which when offered to the world will lead to a quality “life centric society” rather than “people centric society”. Cheers to a pleasant world!! Love and Peace!!

P.S. Charity begins at home…Don’t go flaunting charities to others. I think if you can be charitable to yourself, work on yourself, the others life will automatically be improved. Set an example, dont make yourself an example and spread lethargy. Self help!!